This is also the perfect opportunity to experiment with your sexuality and what makes you feel good! Still, your health should always come first, and although you might be seasoned in the bedroom department, it doesn’t mean you are immune from STIs– the senior community actually has one of the fastest-growing rates of STIs. So, if you’re ready to engage in any sexual activity, make time to have an open discussion with your partner.
Wow! This article, read with the comments, makes dating sound awful for everyone. Go out and have some people, if it doesn’t work out it’s ok, date some more.
Well look no further sweet I’m YOUR MAN! I’ve been alone now for 4 years after being in a,very toxic and crazy 7 year relationship and it took me all this time to heal. Now I want to be your loving companion and friend and live with you in harmony, love, understanding, and just being there for you to hold you tight and embrace you on all your lonely nights!
I don’t know what the secret to relationship success is after 50. But I do know, that by this age, we should be much more responsible with the hearts, minds, and souls of the people we interact with. Don’t waste anyone’s time, if you don’t want an exclusive relationship, then be honest so the other person can have a chance to back out. And if they do want to back out, let them, don’t keep chasing them down as though you really want only them.
The Central Scrutinizer……I can understand your resentment. What you’ve said makes sense to me. And not to knock California, because I think it is a beautiful and dynamic state, I have seen and heard about what people’s expectations generally are who live there. I have friends and family out there who have told me pretty much the same thing. It’s that CA/Hollywood mentality. Not sure if many people there really deal with reality. I get why you are so frustrated.
If this is a statistics game, I need to figure out my niche, not give up. And I just escaped a horrific situation with a husband obsessed with younger women/people… if I need to wait forever to get into a healthy relationship, I guess it’s okay.
I don’t buy that at all. You can meet someone at any age. I know lots of women over 50 who’ve started and kept proper relationships
I know right? I’m 31, not in my 50’s or 40’s, but I also sensed some bitterness in her words. Live and let live without judging others. People can make their free chocies as long as they don’t harm others. She just sounds upset and competitive in a toxic way.
Right on! Keep friends. Nurture our community life. Spend time with people who care about us and value us not because we’re “eye candy” or ego boosters for some man’s arm. Beware of men who openly look at younger women. They’re not the kind of partner, or even friend, that you want.
If you don’t have a lot of confidence or are lacking in the masculinity department (mental and emotional masculinity), let me help you out. I’ve heard back from 100s of men over 50 who are now sleeping with women in their 20s and 30s, as well as men who’ve found a beautiful new women to share the rest of their life with.
I think I have a lot to offer. I am attractive and look young for my age. I’m smart, funny, down to earth, loyal, and affectionate. I am not materialistic. I don’t care what a man does for work or what car he drives. And I do not have a weight problem. I can’t figure out what more a guy could want in a woman. I can only hope to find a nice partner the old fashioned way, but so far it hasn’t been easy.
Read the post by “Confirmed Bachelor” from October 31, 2017. The guy just nails it. The “must haves” and “deal breakers” I see on some women’s dating profiles are literally exhausting. I’ve concluded that dating in our 50s is much harder than we were in our 20s. Let’s be real here: Newly single and physically vibrant men in their 50s are looking for sex – the more the merrier and the hotter the better. It’s likely that many have gone years without for whatever reasons, so now they want “fun times.” Yes, we also want to find that special someone to grow old with, BUT, the former is gonna have to come before the latter. That’s just DNA and biology. The “3-date” rule that women hate does exist for many, but not all, men. Meanwhile, women want the soulmate, the companion, someone who’ll listen, the idealized guy who meets that laundry list of criteria. It’s all so frustrating at times.
I do want women to know we find women in their 50s or older sexy… there is the blonde suburban sexy / soccer Mom look, women with sparkling eyes and wit, the curvy busty look, naughty redheads (real or borrowed)… though I don’t understand those hairdos that are short on one side, and then tapers down at a steep angle, and curled? … opps! However, I have met a number of women who have completely let themselves go, chatter constantly, often interrupt, and then whine about not being able to find a man. I hear these women talking to each other, and wonder if they ever dish the truth. Let the “ex” go. Are you 20 pounds off a reasonable weight, or 70? Do you seek a flawless man?
As young people, we are fed a line of BS that says that there will always be time, we can enjoy ‘golden years’ together playing shuffleboard and bingo with our friends. The truth is that health problems begin to affect us in our 50s, limiting small things at first, then more and more until we’ve worked ourselves into our 60s and most of us don’t have the physical wherewithal to do the things we thought we were working for. By then, a third of women have had a hysterectomy, twenty percent of men have acute ED, and everyone is fighting high blood pressure, diabetes, digestive problems, arthritis, cardiovascular and pulmonary problems, and general poor health. If you think I’m exaggerating, go to an amusement park with an eight year old and tell me how you feel at the end of the day.
I am 50 and I look at least 10 yrs younger. Nobody I run into can believe it, and I have even passed for 38. With that said, I’d still prefer to date someone around my age. I tried to get to know someone who was 40 when I was 49, and his immaturity blew me away. I am hoping that someone around my age will have at least some of the same things in common.
Many want exciting sexual relationships, but haven’t taken care of themselves. I certainly don’t expect physical perfection at our ages, but I work to stay in shape and hope my partner understands the need to make an effort in this area too. Especially if they want “hot” sex. Many women also don’t have “skills” in the bedroom.
