I met my husband on Match.com. I knew on our first date he wasn't the silver-haired bad boy I was impulsively attracted to. There was no titillating chemistry. His clothes were frumpy, drab and tired. His conversation was restrained. He was balding and 40 pounds overweight.
I was married for 26 years and At 58 I’ve given up on finding love. I’m not attracted to older men and they don’t seem to want a woman their age anyway. Seems hopeless to me.
Just as important, there is the question of whether 2 decades of “aging gracefully” is even desirable. The happiest 70-year-olds I know are the ones who continued to contribute to the world in their own way. They stay socially active. They continue to work, even if they left their careers behind. They see their health as an asset to be protected.
If someone asked me, “How do you know if he/she’s the one?” here is my answer. When it’s right, you like everything about yourself and how you are—both when you are together and apart. The person brings out the best in you. The person makes you laugh. You’re not afraid to be yourself with the person. You will do anything for the person—not just say you’ll do anything, really mean it. And that advice goes not just for those falling in love after 50, but for anyone at any age.
This may sound weird but in high school I was dating a guy not knowing his best friend was in love with me. 35 some yrs later the best friend and have gotten together and I am madly in love with him. Only problem is, is that he’s had a lot of issues lately which I wont name and it keeps us from ever spending quality time together. I’m 51 and I feel like I’m in high school. I want to spend every minute with him but can’t. I feel like I’m going crazy because I love him so much and I’m a very emotional person so tears flow easily. LOL. Hes not the perfect guy…he gets into trouble and does not take any grief from anyone. I just hope I’m doing the right thing by falling this hard for an old classmate from all those years ago
The secret to lasting love: “We are each other’s best friend, and we both respect each other immensely for who we are as individuals. We talk to each other all the time and share many laughs. It helps that we are so much alike in almost everything (sometimes almost eerily so), and we just enjoy being around each other.”
Many people believe that they have no chance of finding love and romance after 50. Whether it is a divorce or death that has left one single, the situation can leave one feeling terrified. However, all isn’t lost and you mustn’t think that there is no chance for you to find love or romance again. There are people out there for you so all you need to do is look in the right place. Let us discuss some ways of finding love after 50, places where to begin, where to go and what to expect.
The secret to lasting love: “Ha! Don’t ask me. I’m still learning. This is the longest relationship I’ve ever had, and it’s not even been three years, so I’m a total rookie. But I think the secret is communication — being able to express your feelings, articulate your needs and find common ground.”
If there’s one thing that I have learned since starting Sixty and Me it’s that happiness after 50 is a choice. You can invest in your health, wealth and happiness. Or, you can let yourself go. You can build a solid foundation for the future. Or, you can accept age-related problems as inevitable.
I can say from personal experience that your 50s are the best time to experience love. While you might have been hooking up all over the place in your 20s, your choices were probably pretty crappy because you — like me in my 20s — had no idea what would create any kind of real happiness in your life.
In other words – start saying yes. Key to meeting new people and finding love is breaking out of your comfort zone and allowing yourself to be open to new opportunities. Much like trying something new – it can feel a little scary at first – but soon you’ll realise that trying new things is fun. It’s time to embrace the possibilities again.
