Love who your heart wants,not what your eyes want,and don't care about what others say...cuz the love is yours not theirs .
Cosign this. If you are ready for something serious, it shouldn't take six months to realize he isn't. And you definitely shouldn't be sleeping with a guy if you're looking for something serious and you're not sure what he wants.
My goals and aspirations come FIRST; no woman or harem of women will get between me and my goals. Period. If I happen to stumble across my Michelle Obama, I might stop and try to slowly cultivate something, but what my experience has shown me is that most women actually don't have the patience (or desire?) for this contrary to popular belief. A lot of women get offended by or suspicious of men who are incredibly busy and can't hang all the time. (I don't cheat!)
Why do you characterize platonic relationships as such a negative? I have great friends of both sexes and they enrich my life in different ways. Perhaps your passing comment wasn't meant to be as telling as it was, but if all of us learned the value of friendships we'd find ourselves in more productive romantic relationships.
While I want honesty always (good, bad, ugly, indifferent), I really don't want to be judged on the sly. That isn't being upfront and truthful to me. If you want to judge me, wait until I commit a crime and you're up for jury duty. The line (yes that is all it is, per the post) is not going to hurt me or my feelings, but I be damned if you're going to set it up to f*ck over my feelings later. Either you want to get to know me or not.
See maybe for women that don’t know what she wants this may be hurtful breaking news…but I do. If all you are getting it THAT…that is all I WANT to give you. The D is good but otherwise he can kick rocks.
So keep on lookin' for that "perfect" woman.. or you can be with one where you already know their TRUE personality.
If you have options than youre tasting anything and everything, pulling the best out of each type of person and situation and making mental notes on what you want in the future.
You said you prefer “decisive confidence in a man” but what’s decisive about a guy who cannot be honest with you or himself about whether or not he wants a relationship? If he’s still trying to make up his mind about you, why throw out the “I don’t want a serious relationship” line at all? A decisive man knows there’s a time and a place for the relationship talk, and that’s when he knows what his decision is going to be.
As for 3… I tend to meet men who travel in the professional and social circles I am a part of. So by the time he’s asking me out, he’s already learned quite a bit about why I’m worth the effort. Maybe you should get to know women a bit as friends before attempting to go in for the date. Less chance of harming your ego.
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"Fellas, am I completely off the mark here? Do you keep your eye out for women you could see yourself with even in the height of your promiscuity or do you happen upon a relationships with good women randomly, like the lottery?”
Singles looking for something serious ASAP might get frustrated with sites that only give a limited number of matches per day. But choosing sites that force you to be selective really heightens the focus on what you're truly looking for in a forever partner — and gets you closer to that cuffing status.
"I can NOT believe how many women are on here cosigning this nonsense." ~ I'm not sure that anyone is cosigning that it's right or wrong, just that it is a truth for many men (but maybe I missed a comment or two, I haven't made it all the way to the bottom yet).
Thanks for attempting to figure out my definition, but we'll just have to agree that we define the word differently. And I'm glad you don't identify with the addiction/avoidance issues that I mentioned.
I'm very social and will meet and talk to just about anyone. If I get a female's info and we decide to hang out later then I don't go into it with any expectations. The encounter may go about as if its a date but half of the time I didn't look at it like that. I have only had a handful of serious relationships and all but one were built out of a preexisting friendship.
I’ve met several men who pursue me despite my lack of interest and it is not attractive. I don’t go from dating the emotional unavailable to the desperate, and letting a woman know you want her (chasing) is not necessarily a sign of emotional dependency.
"They meet a woman they might have some potential interest in and they promptly warn her, “I’m not looking for anything serious.” Even though he is. This is code for, I’ve just put you on the possible girlfriend/wife plan but I’m going to wait and see how you act first."
LOL! This is so true… I went on a first date with a guy who told me he wasn't looking for anything serious and by the 3rd he was telling how good of a boyfriend he is and how I would want to marry him one day. #goodread
