Yep, even a 83 year old retired Baptist minister stated that after menopause the only thing they want is money and that they are no longer interested in the physical side.
In our 50s, our metabolism slows down and our ability to gain weight increases. I have always been a runner, hitting the streets three to five times a week, accomplishing five to eight kilometres at a stretch.
I’m a genuine person. I’m 56 and I was an iron worker for 30 years. Utah of those I was a steel contractor. I’m honest, and have integrity.
Holy crap…. well that is some honest male perspective…. I am appreciative of the feedback although it is a little brutal. As a woman knocking on 50’s door, with a marriage soon to end in divorce after 26 years, I feel a bit insecure. I am glad I don’t have a weight, hygiene, hormone, or hag issue to deal with! Just your normal everyday wtf insecurity stuff. Good tip on what to do with going through the “change”!! Once my estrogen dips, I will make sure to schedule a doctor’s appointment for hormone therapy, we’ll want to keep the beast caged!
Well…i am a married man of 54 years looking for 60 and 70 year old pretty women thst want a nice sexy relationship…
If that’s the expectation that men of my generation want to have, well fine. That’s probably part of the reason a lot of these guys like to chase after women 20 odd years thier junior — Younger women haven’t figured it out yet and therefore they’re more malable.
Whether you feel like you might be the target of an elaborate scam a la a Dateline investigation, or you feel just plain cautious of more run-of-the-mill misrepresentation when online dating, you might fear becoming a target by putting yourself out there. "In your 50s, you long to have someone for both companionship and intimacy, and because of this, you also become an easy target for scammers and people who will only take advantage of you," says Celia Schweyer, a dating expert at DatingRelationshipsAdvice.com. "But there are also genuine people out there who are looking for the same thing as you are; you just have to sift through the bad ones to find your perfect match."
Tony M……just like it makes no sense to lump all men into a category and stereotype them, all women should not be considered liars. There’s good and not so good in all of us. Not one of us is perfect. Some choose to be honest, and some choose to play games. Often the honest get hurt, but that’s the chance you take.
If you eliminate all people who are either overweight and/or have some other sort of chronic health condition, you are eliminating 60 or 70% of possible partners. And this is of all americans. If you are talking about men over 50 years old, it’s approaching 75%.If you add in that the man has to be well off, you’ve just made the pool even smaller. At this point, you haven’t looked at everything else that might come into play, whether or not you can have interesting conversations, for example.
You are absolutely right. The good and decent among us are truly paying the price. It is a damn shame. You sound like a good guy and I truly hope one of the few decent women left in the world will find you.
I know right? I’m 31, not in my 50’s or 40’s, but I also sensed some bitterness in her words. Live and let live without judging others. People can make their free chocies as long as they don’t harm others. She just sounds upset and competitive in a toxic way.
9. Most people end up in bed after three or four dates, assuming everything has gone pretty well up until that point. What you do is a very personal matter, but it’s always good to know what is normal. Men aren’t too worried about the pubic topiary, but most prefer a little less than the full Gwyneth. Go with what makes you feel sexy.
A couple of years after my divorce, I bought a vibrator that I use maybe once a month for both clitoral stimulation and vaginal insertion. I like it and reach orgasm easily that way, but I don’t feel the need to use it more often.
Now the part I find so amazing. I read here and heard from my wife (she is 36) that I did not have a career and she needed someone that dreams big. She loves me and will always love me, but she needs to move on. I could not believe what I was hearing….so for you women out there that want a successful man that has his own money etc – today the dynamic has changed are there are great looking men that have given up our lives to support a successful woman. As for my soon to be ex, she kept telling me and her family that she wants to have a child and all other blah, blah, blah…but she never had her constant menstrual issues checked. Up until I caught her, it was more about how much money they were going to make versus the great money we made each year. He would rent a plane etc…more of a higher status than being loyal to the man that dedicated an important part of his life to her and her career.
You’re both more mature. According to Cantarella, there can be a lot more substance to a relationship in your 50s than in your 20s. “As a mature adult, we look for someone who will bring more to a relationship and enrich our lives. It’s beyond physical attraction. We understand the need for friendship, companionship, and emotional intimacy, things we most likely did not consider in our younger years.”
What is important is behavior. I was in an abusive relationship for 25 years and never want to be in one again. I want to avoid women who are angry all the time for no reason, or cry at the drop of a hat all the time. “Did you hear it might rain tomorrow?” “How could you say that? I’ve never been so humiliated in all my life. Why do you hate me?” Then they run crying into the bedroom.
