As I read your lengthy dissertation on how sorry men are – I couldn’t help but think – why are you so bitter? Apparently, you were the leavee and not the leaver in your marriage. I was also the leavee and did not want a divorce, nor believe that God would support the dissou lution of the marriage of 33 years that only he could have orchestrated from the beginning. I feel like you need to further examine your attitude moving forward. If not, you have a high probability of your life ending single and alone. Don’t kidd yourself, we were not put on this earth to be alone! Make no mistake about it. Your right about one thing though: There are not a lot of good men out there in the 50 plus population. Hell, i’m not even sure if I am “one” of them or not. I would like to think I can still find love again at any age. I’m 59, educated, and financially comfortable. Kids are grown and married, so I only have myself to take.care of for the first time since 18. Would you like to meet me? William
I think some men like to date much younger women to boost their ego. In their 40’s and 50’s or the so-called mid life, some men need affirmation that they are still young and viable. I truly think some men have that mid-life crisis to where they feel the need to reassess themselves and their life. Being able to date younger women makes some men feel desired and still in the game. Just my opinion based on countless articles I’ve read and people I know and talk to.
But if you focus on people who have been willing to pay a reasonable membership fee, rather than just sticking with a free account, you’ll instantly weed out 95% of the people who give dating a bad name.
This is fine in principal… but I wonder if it needs to account for the fact that the majority of woman seek an older man, and some (e.g. very mature, with kids) want a significantly older man.
Match Group is making strides toward a safer dating experience: In Jan. 2020, Tinder unveiled the new features coming out of its partnership with Noonlight, a safety app that tracks the location of users and notifies authorities if there are concerns. Before heading out on a date, Tinder users can log info about where they're going and who they're meeting, as well as hit a panic button to alert authorities if there's an emergency. (Match Group plans to roll out the same features for its other apps, like Hinge and OkCupid, later.)
Debbie, It is very scary for many of us men nowadays to even approach a woman that we would really like to meet since we have to watch out for sexual harassment which there is a lot of that lately going around nowadays unfortunately. And the very sad thing is that there are many of us very good men out there that just can’t find love at all, no matter how we try. I really hate being single since it isn’t any fun at all when we really are all alone with no one to talk too either. This society has really changed for the worst of all . It is just too very bad that many of us weren’t born in the old days since most of us that really wanted love would’ve been able to find it with no trouble at all since the times were very different back then. And many of us definitely would’ve been all settled down ourselves with our very own family that many of us men still don’t have today as i speak. Good luck to you as well. Peace.
A painful divorce or the 30 happy years you spent together before your spouse's death may weigh heavily on your mind, but that doesn't mean stuff like that is appropriate first date fodder. When in doubt, save the talk of your past relationships for later down the line.
All I can say Tom is to protect yourself. Don’t give yourself away all at once. Give any relationship a good deal of time to grow and develop, and pace yourself with the finances. You don’t have to get married again either. That is something you deal with if you’ve been in a relationship for a good amount of time and you have honesty and trust. Even then there is not an absolute need to marry. You will know deep down if it is right or not.
What a kind, noble Father you are! I’am a 51 young at “heart” women. I have a 22 year old son at Uof I and a daughter who is a senior in H.S. Still deciding on colleges.
Selfish and vain people has no gender restriction. I am in my 50s, divorced a few. Years(my choice). Been told I look a bit like Tony danza. Super spiritual and pretty much have my act together. Tough to met a “together” woman of ANY age! The younger ones want adventure and sex, the older ones are scarred and want you to be the one that “saves the day”
I’ve been trying internet dating for the second time, worked for me the first time around after a few years of trying but since ending up single again I’ve had little luck. Not sure if it’s my age or just the fact that it’s got harder to get dates now more people use internet dating. It’s so disheartening.
Jeff…..you are so right. Without authenticity….being open, honest, and genuine……there isn’t much hope for a real connection. In the past I have tried to be that with the guys I’ve met online, through friends, or otherwise. That’s the way I treat everyone.
ROTFLMAO! You go guuuurl! I’m good just had supper. Thanks. Don’t know what supperficial is. Ever heard of a spellcheck!? I get feeling you will be alone for a very long time
You can create a profile on SeniorFriendsDate, browse other members’ dating profiles, and send messages to anyone you like all for free. The site promises to remove any underage daters and fake profiles, so this mature dating network should be to your liking.
He doesn't want someone to replace his late wife. He loved her and lost her. This wasn't a break up. He isn't looking for someone to take over the same role as his wife. He's looking for a new relationship. A new woman to date and have a relationship with. Whether he lost her one year ago or ten. It wasn't a choice, and chances are he doesn't want a clone of his wife. He wants to find love and companionship with a new woman. Be that woman, not the woman to fill in the position.
An age gap is a beautiful thing that can be very fruitful for a marriage. Age, as we know, is a social construct. There are pretty common cases when couples are divided by years and years, yet they feel pretty much on the same page. Why is it so? The longer we stay together, the more common traits we acquire throughout our family life.
Anyway, while we’re on our continued journey to find that other that can and will love us as we are and where we are and that we can do the same for and that fulfills us enough, there’s no reason for us to respect one another and treat each other kindly/excellently on the way, whether we find each other the one that’s enough or we find each other somewhat lacking or not meeting our requirements. There probably are people out there for us, we just haven’t gotten to them or gotten to know them and maybe we never may just due to life, geography or language or culture separation. Its not necessarily your or my fault, it just is.
